9 Tips for Putting Your Baby To Sleep and Helping Them Sleep Better

New parents soon discover that "sleeping like a baby" isn't always so peaceful. In fact, it's quite common for babies to protest when being put down. They might also wake up crying a few hours—or minutes—after falling asleep. But there are ways you can help your baby sleep more soundly.

If your baby fusses all night, reworking their sleep schedule might solve the issue. "There's no such thing as a bad sleeper, just bad sleep habits, and they're usually reversible," says Ingrid Prueher, a pediatric sleep consultant in Fairfield, Connecticut, and host of the Baby Sleep 911 video series.

Keep reading for baby sleep tips and learn how to put a baby to sleep so they sleep better and longer. You might be rewarded with better slumber—for both you and your baby.

How To Put a Baby To Sleep

Every baby has a unique sleeping pattern, and it's unrealistic to expect an infant to sleep through the night early on. Most babies don't consistently accomplish six- to eight-hour stretches of nighttime sleep until they're around 6 months old. Still, you can set up your little one for successful slumber by revamping their sleep habits.

Room-sharing is recommended for at least the first 6 months, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), but the baby should never be in bed with you. Instead, they should have their own sleeping space, such as a crib or bassinet. Avoid overheating your baby, and keep them away from secondhand smoke, which has been shown to increase the risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS).

How To Help Your Baby Sleep Better

Below are nine tips for putting your baby to sleep and helping them sleep better, including establishing a bedtime routine, prioritizing naps, and encouraging self-soothing.

1. Start a bedtime routine

Research shows that establishing a bedtime routine is crucial in helping your baby sleep. "One of the ways a baby learns it's time to go to sleep is from cues in the environment," notes Deborah Givan, MD, professor of clinical pediatrics at Indiana University School of Medicine. About 30 minutes before bedtime, turn the noise down and dim the lights.

"The right lighting is essential because it helps set a baby's internal clock," explains Dr. Given. "Our brain associates light and dark with being awake or asleep. Turning the lights low at night—and exposing your baby to bright light in the a.m.—will help this process along."

Once you minimize the stimuli, you can introduce other calming rituals, like a warm bath, nursery rhymes or lullabies, and softly spoken stories. Dr. Givan recommends having the nighttime ritual in place by about 6 to 8 weeks. Be consistent, and do the activities in the same order every night so your baby learns what to expect.

2. Don't rely on soothing methods

Try to put your baby down drowsy but awake. "If you put your baby in the crib when they're already asleep and they wake up in the night, which all humans do, they won't recognize their surroundings and will need your help getting back to sleep," notes Dr. Givan. Putting them down drowsy will help them learn to self-soothe—and, most importantly, fall back to sleep.

"The issue we get the most calls about is parents automatically repeating soothing habits to the point that the baby is hooked," says Los Angeles sleep consultant Heather Turgeon, co-author of The Happy Sleeper. Newborns benefit from rocking, bouncing, and soothing to sleep, but babies develop quickly and don't need those things forever.

"By about 5 months, most babies have the capability to fall asleep on their own, and if we're still doing it for them, we're getting in their way," says Turgeon. "Start practicing in the early months to put your baby down awake, at least once a day—usually the first nap is the most successful." Keep your cuddle time, but gradually stop the patting and shushing and rocking to sleep.

3. Don't feed them back to sleep

Newborns fall asleep while eating all the time. "And I don't want anyone to stress about that," notes Turgeon. But if your baby routinely dozes off during feedings, they'll think they need to eat in order to get back to sleep.

To combat this issue, gradually move the feeding earlier until your little one can get through it without falling asleep, then finish the bedtime routine with a diaper change and a calming book or song, and place them down drowsy but awake. You may still need to get up for a nighttime feeding, but then it will be about hunger, not soothing.

4. Stick to an early bedtime

When considering how to put a baby to sleep, timing is just as important as a routine. "[After a few months of age], babies have a rise in melatonin, a drowsy-making hormone the body releases when it's time for sleep, which means they're ready for an early bedtime consistent with the sun setting," says Turgeon. "If you keep them up late instead, they become overstimulated and harder to put down."

Melatonin levels rise somewhere around sundown, but given that sundown can be anytime from 4:30 p.m. in winter to 8:30 p.m. in summer, stick to the clock and aim for a bedtime between 7 p.m. and 8 p.m. for the most success. If the sun is still up, close the shades.

"A good sign of drowsiness is when the baby becomes calm—they're less active, have a bored look, or just stare off," says Turgeon. Don't mistake this behavior as a desire to be awake. Seize the moment and start your bedtime routine. "The baby's internal clock is telling them when to be awake and when to be asleep, and you want to reinforce that," she notes.

5. Eliminate daytime snacking

Sleep and nutrition go hand-in-hand, notes Prueher. For the first 8 weeks, a baby should be feeding on demand every two to three hours. "If they want to eat every hour or so, they may not be consuming enough at each session," says Prueher. Keep a 24-hour log of how many ounces a bottle-fed baby takes and at what time. For a breastfed baby, note how many minutes they're nursing each session.

"If they eat for 20 minutes during the nighttime feeding but only five or 10 minutes during the day, they're just snacking," says Prueher. "And they're not filling their belly enough to sleep through the night."

On the flip side, if your baby is eating well during the day, they should be able to sleep for a four- to six-hour stretch at night by around 2.5 to 3 months. They'll soon work up to sleeping longer stretches at a time.

Also, don't neglect burping. "Sometimes we mistake coming off the breast or bottle as being finished when really the baby needs to be burped," notes Prueher. Bright lights or noise can also be distracting. Try feeding your baby in a darker, quiet room, especially when they become more interested in their surroundings.

6. Take naps seriously

A well-rested child will sleep better than an overtired one. It seems counterintuitive, but skipping a nap (or keeping a baby up late) in hopes that they'll sleep longer at night simply doesn't work. This is why regular daytime naps are so essential for getting a baby to sleep at night.

"At the age of 2 months, a baby's optimal span of awake time is only about 90 minutes between sleeps, which goes by really quickly," says Turgeon. "They don't have the tolerance to be awake more than that until 4 to 5 months." Keep an eye on the clock, because picking up on your baby's tired gaze isn't easy.

7. Set napping guidelines

By 3 to 4 months of age, your little one will have longer awake periods, and you can work toward a nap schedule with a nap in the morning, another in the early afternoon, and a short late-afternoon nap if needed.

"Naps are a great time for you to practice putting your baby down drowsy," adds Prueher. It's not the middle of the night, so you can think more clearly, set a routine, pick up on cues, and follow through with putting them to bed awake.

8. Let your baby work it out

If you immediately rush in to help your munchkin fall back to sleep at the first noise you hear, you could be creating a cycle that will be hard to break. "As long as you know that they can't be hungry, you can pause before rushing in," says Turgeon, who recommends starting a "soothing ladder" from as early as day one.

When you hear your baby fuss, pause for a minute and see if they can work it out themselves. "If they can't, go in and do the least intrusive thing—pat or shush but don't pick them up," says Turgeon. If that doesn't work, you gradually climb the soothing ladder until you get them back to sleep.

"The point of the soothing ladder isn't to make a baby learn to self-soothe overnight, but to give them enough space to allow their self-soothing skills to unfold naturally, over time," says Turgeon. Plus, it may help you avoid a more stressful cry-it-out situation down the road.

9. Stop overthinking sleep

We get it: When you're not getting enough sleep yourself, a good night's rest is all you can think about. But if possible, try to resist the urge to research "how to put a baby to sleep" every single night. "Information overload causes parents to try a million different things, which doesn't build any consistency or trust," says Prueher. "Children thrive on knowing what to expect."

Trust your instincts and give the techniques you choose a chance to work. Your baby may need multiple tries (or days or weeks) to get into good sleep habits—but if you keep at it, they'll get there. Ultimately, Prueher recommends giving your baby practice at falling asleep and a little space to show their capabilities.